I got this from the Napoleon Hill Foundation, “Without a plan for your life, it is easier to follow the course of least resistance, to go with the flow, to drift with the current with no particular destination in mind. Having a definite plan for your life greatly simplifies the process of making hundreds of daily decisions that affect your ultimate success. When you know where you want to go, you can quickly decide if your actions are moving you toward your goal or away from it. Without definite, precise goals and a plan for their achievement, each decision must be considered in a vacuum. Definiteness of purpose provides context and allows you to relate specific actions to your overall plan.”
Clearly this applies to Dating as well because most people DO NOT know what it is they want and what they don’t want. A woman will typically believe in a romantic fantasy of meeting “the man of her dreams” by accident. And if its meant to be she will meet him this way. She will believe things like “you can’t find the one you’re looking for, you have to let him find you…” And with men its almost the same. They don’t know what they want, so now they meet a physically attractive woman and they completely forget about the things they don’t like in her ’till its to late. What I mean is they become almost blind as in “love is blind” or rather “lust is blind” and therefore they put up with what Canadian relationship guru Stephane Hemon calls “pussy power” and this ultimately destroys their masculinity.