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Do have a better Relationship with Technology?

Technology or Relationship?Your  technology takes on a new kind of relationship the day you begin to decorate your phones. Girls may recall growing up with dolls, dressing them, playing house and pretending they are the mommy or daddy or both. Boys are playing with cars, building or breaking them, finding out where the action lies in the toys. Since this young age we're conditioned to spend more time with replacements for human relationships. What is the relationship you have with your best friend? Can you honestly tell them everything you Read More →

What is the role of Technology in Romantic Relationships?

One of the tragedies of the romantic relationships in the 21st century is the lack of quality and the lack of depth. Technology has played a pivotal role in bringing people closer together and also keeping people from connecting at deeper levels. We've seen the rise of Internet dating as means for people to find suitable partners to become friends, go on dates and to eventually get married. This has been further enhanced by adult dating websites, which allow people to skip courtship and go straight to sex. We've also seen the erosion of boundaries between couples. Cellphones have placed people Read More →

Social Media is not Social Interaction

My role as a technology evangelist is to bring the good news about technology to you. Well there is good news and there is bad news. And as with most people I'm sure you prefer the bad news first. A question I want you to ask yourself before I share that news with you is this: is technology really neutral or is it biased based on the inherent function that is is designed for? Anyway here's the bad news: there is a myth promulgated that in today's society that social media is social interaction. How can you compare a conversation at Read More →

How The Recession Can Spice Up Relationships

by Susan Adams, 04.21.09, 12:30 PM ET The economic crisis has a huge upside: an opportunity to improve your relationship. Layoffs, furloughs and shrinking 401(k)s may not seem like natural aphrodisiacs, but according to experts in relationships and sex, the depressed financial picture is leading some couples--and singles--to better appreciate each other. "The recession brings with it a re-evaluation of what's important in life," says Manhattan psychoanalyst Amy Joelson. It's too early for empirical studies evaluating the effect of the recession on the sex lives of Americans, notes Chicago psychiatrist Paul Dobranksy, author of The Secret Psychology of How We Fall In Love. Read More →

Avoiding long distant relationships

You will always find people who have had success in a particular way of dating because there is such a vast number of variables at play. Long distance relationships is one of those activities that for the most part give people a false hope or a lack of control in the outcome, and in my opinion kills your self-esteem. When I think back to my very first girlfriend I met in my 2nd year at university, I recall how the tension escalated when I moved to Johannesburg (from Uitenhage) and she moved to Stellenbosch (from Read More →

Are robots the sex partners of the future?

This article is a few months old but I wanted to highlight it because it illustrates the state of affairs when it comes to how technology is replacing human experience. Read the full story: hardwired for love here. Technology can never replace human experience because it is a simulation of the real world. However, if you consider how real dreams feel when you're dreaming, maybe you will wake up from the dream and be thankful it was only a dream. The experience of connecting with another human being is only enhanced by technology when you are physically in different locations. This Read More →

Why you should never get back together with your ex-girlfriend after a break-up

Received the following email the other day... Hi Ramon, my girlfriend of 1 and half years recently broke up with me. We lived together and she decided that she wanted to move out because she didn't feel the same way about me as she did before. I feel as though my life has ended. I really love this woman and would do anything to have her back. She has moved into her own place and seems very happy. It kills me just thinking that she is going to be with some other guy one of these days. Do you think it Read More →

Cellphones, Cheating and Couples

Recently a question the following question was posted on the Bruin-ou.com forum: Should we as individuals be concerned about those ringing and in many cases "vibrating" cellphones of our girlfriends/boyfriends which we never get to see? Here's my response...Besides being a part-time dating coach I speak across South Africa to parents, teachers and teenagers about the pro's and con's of MXit/Cellphones and Facebook/Social Networking websites. One book I read on this topic is Online Read More →

Michael Tsarion on Relationships

Michael TsarionWhat is a "Relationship?" Is it: Dependency under another name? Insecurity under another name? Vampirism under another name? I'm empty and I need you. You're empty and you need me!...(often called "Falling in Love"). Christians were told marriage was an alternative to damnation. Better to marry than burn! Fear paves the way. Relationships! The bane of the Piscean Age, and on its way out. Are you ready? Another question you may want to be asking yourself today and for the rest of your lives... WHAT IS IT THAT OTHERS MAKE Read More →

What can I do to make me feel better about me?

This is a question from Yahoo! Answers that I answered and was voted Best Answer by the person who asked the question...

As the week keeps going, I'm feeling more and more depressed. I feel like pretty soon something is going to happen to me because of my bad decisions. What can I do to make me feel better about myself? And to not feel so depressed? I've been feeling depressed for about 2 weeks. Could this be something serious? Should I go to a doctor?Please, just give me some advice on how I can put Read More →