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Received the following email the other day…

Hi Ramon, my girlfriend of 1 and half years recently broke up with me. We lived together and she decided that she wanted to move out because she didn’t feel the same way about me as she did before. I feel as though my life has ended. I really love this woman and would do anything to have her back. She has moved into her own place and seems very happy. It kills me just thinking that she is going to be with some other guy one of these days. Do you think it is possible to get this woman back?

My first response… 

Yes, it’s possible. And NO its a bad idea. You have what they call one-itis in the seduction community. You have vested WAY too much on this one woman and you feel like you do not have any other options. Before I say more about this, tell me in what area of your life are you successful, growing, focussed, energised right now?

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Recently a question the following question was posted on the Bruin-ou.com forum: Should we as individuals be concerned about those ringing and in many cases “vibrating” cellphones of our girlfriends/boyfriends which we never get to see?

Here’s my response…Besides being a part-time dating coach I speak across South Africa to parents, teachers and teenagers about the pro’s and con’s of MXit/Cellphones and Facebook/Social Networking websites.

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A funny situation has evolved in my life recently whereby one of my girlfriends ended up working for me and helping me out on a part-time basis. I work from home so she used to come in and run my office for me, especially when I’m travelling. She’s always been very sweet, very adorable and sometimes to predictable in this sense. However, because of this attitude she had towards life, it was clear that her family abused her inability to say “no”.

So she showed how yesterday morning and at first I did not notice anything different. She went to the shop close by and it took her 1.5 hours to return. In fact I was in a panic and went to find her, only to discover she was parked down the road, apparently trying to find her cellphone. I had gone through a series of emotions from let me wait a bit longer, to how the hell could she take so long, to what the could have happened to her because she’s not answering her cellphone.

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What is a “Relationship?”

Is it: Dependency under another name? Insecurity under another name? Vampirism under another name? I’m empty and I need you. You’re empty and you need me!…(often called “Falling in Love“). Christians were told marriage was an alternative to damnation. Better to marry than burn! Fear paves the way.

Relationships! The bane of the Piscean Age, and on its way out. Are you ready?

Another question you may want to be asking yourself today and for the rest of your lives…

WHAT IS IT THAT OTHERS MAKE ME FEEL THAT I NEED FROM THEM?

We always know what it is that we need from others. We often know quickly what others want from us. But finding out what it is that others may subtly make us feel we require from them (and which eventually makes us dependent upon them) is not so obvious. Love is not part of a transaction. It is the most PRIVATE thing there is or can be, in the full sense of that word. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise, and don’t continue deluding yourself. Forget what the priests have said, and mummy and daddy, and all those without a clue who, in their egregious error, have made the world what it is today. You won’t get it from the girl or the boy, the man or the woman, or from Jesus, or Allah. So stop looking for it in where it is not to be found! Realize that this very looking and seeking arises because of its absence within. The deer smells the tree bark for the musk produced by its own glands. You could laugh at that paradox. There is a greater madness abroad:

Men looking for love from a stranger, for that which only his own heart and mind can produce. This is the secret of man’s delirium.

Republished from the Michael Tsarion Forum on Red Ice Creations.

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Here’s my take on the 5 main reasons why guys can’t seem to get it right in the relationship stakes:

1. Being to much of a nice guy, to agreeable and therefore too predictable.
2. Trying to buy her affection with dinners, gifts, jewelery or flowers.
3. You do not understanding how attraction works
4. You are to dependent on the outcome of any given interaction with a woman
5. Approval seeking behaviour

Can you think of any other reasons guys can’t seem to get it right in the dating and relations departments in general.

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Review of Men Are Clams, Woman Are Crowbars by Dr David Clarke, Ph.D.

When I picked up this book I wanted to learn more about these differences between men and women that I find fascinating in a never ending sort of way. And the analogy works well in the book explaining how men and women communicate and deal with stress in their relationships. What I did not expect was the typical “holier than though” attitude so typical of conservative Christian writers. And this spoils a book with some good practical advice. Overall this book must be aimed at a very small market of people and because of the bias of the author may be unappealing to everyone else. The last thing you want in a self-help book is a preaching tone.

As Dr John Demartini says, the moment you become infatuated with a person or subject yourself to an authority figure e.g. The Pope or Jesus Christ you import their values onto your own and this becomes a miserable failure.

The other disappointing thing about this book is that it almost exclusively focussed on couples in a marriage. And I don’t know if this Christian psychologist, as David Clarke, calls himself, lives in the real world. Expecting people to stay married, forever and ever. Dynamics in the world has changed, so there are a lot more unmarried people then ever before. People who could be married, but don’t for very valid and practical reasons. I also agree with the views of the radical American talk radio DJ, Tom Leykis, there is no benefit for a man, as it stands legally getting married. If you are curious just do a search for “Leykis 101” and you will get an education in manhood you may have missed out on.

This book is written mostly for women, and offers very little help for men. And I suppose that’s always been the target market of the author. Even as a man, I really do not appreciate his tone, talking down, toward men. So this author is what they call pussy whipped.

• You can purchase Men are Clams, Women are Crowbars from Take2

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There’s no way around it: dating today is tough. And once you have a few bad experiences under your belt, old habits set in, undermining self-esteem and the confidence to plunge back into the dating scene. The authors of Why You’re Still Single seek to remedy these dating doldrums, attacking the problem from the male and female perspective, helpful suggestions on turning negatives into positive, mutually reinforcing attributes.

For example: Listen to your feelings; trust your intuition and don’t be blinded by your desire for a relationship before you vet the emotional availability and responses of the other person. That person cannot fulfill all your emotional needs and shouldn’t be expected to bear that burden. Take a reading of the other person’s availability and emotional maturity and don’t expect to change them as time goes on.

This well-plotted guide attempts to dissect the common stereotypical negatives and reframe them into positive, action-oriented approaches, each chapter dealing with particular obstacles, the male and female responses to overcoming common problems in a manner that is empowering and personally instructive. But it is your journey in the end.

Linda Holmes is Paula Abdul to Evan Marc Katz’s Simon Cowell. Paula, er, Linda tempers every blunt statement of Evan’s, phrasing her comments into female-friendly advice that is relatable, even to the most stubborn lady. This isn’t a competition; it’s a journey, one that offers many helpful lessons sans defenses. Both authors, male and female, perceive the obstacles, the Venus and Mars approach, writing with an eye to solutions.

Each issue is discussed conversationally in the contemporary rhetoric of today’s dating scene. Clearly, these are commonsense approaches, a little help sorting through the baggage of old behavior. The remarks may be couched in yin and yang, but the intent is the same, a fresh look at the dating scene, armed with the tools for a successful endeavor.

The topics are spicy: The Desperation Tango, Women Who Hate Men Who Hate Women, Everything You Say Can and Will Be Used against You, Good Girls Don’t and Deal Breakers, to name but a few. Plainspoken and to the point, the guide is simple, practical, and above all, positive, the message invaluable, not to mention entertaining.

Other worthwhile suggestions: Desperation is a recipe for failure - don’t set a wedding date the first time you meet him; Don’t generalize - “all men are dogs.” Treat each new date as an individual, not a means to an end. Insecurity is unattractive; instead, learn to know and love yourself to attract a like-minded person (we attract what we are). And don’t mistake emotional clutter for emotional complexity! Too tall an order? Not if you are stuck in a rut with no end in sight. There are enough small gems in these pages to reinvigorate even the most pitiful dating repertoire. It’s all in the perspective.

• Purchase Why You’re Still Single from Kalahari.net

Originally published on Curled Up With A Good Book © Luan Gaines, 2006.

Also checkout the official Why You’re Still Single website.

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WHAT DO WOMEN want? A pair of sociology professors at the University of Virginia think they know: a sensitive guy with healthy pay check.

Even women who might describe themselves as feminists report being happier in marriages where the husbands earns the lion’s share of income, as long as he is engaged in the emotional life of the marriage, according to the study by W. Bradford Wilcox and Steven L. Nock.

In a report titled “What’s Love Got to Do With It: Equality, Equity, Commitment and Women’s Marital Quality,” published in the March issue of the journal Social Forces, the two researchers set conventional wisdom on its ear.

For example: The emotional engagement of her husband, not the division of housework and paid work, is the most important determinant of a woman’s marital happiness.

“Wives are much more concerned with whether their husband lends an attentive ear to their concerns and aspirations than whether their husband does half the cooking and cleaning,” said Wilcox, after poring over interviews with 5,000 couples in the National Survey of Families and Households.

The researchers found that women are happiest in their marriages when their husbands earn 68 percent or more of the couple’s income.

Also, women who share with their husbands a strong commitment to lifelong marriage are more likely to report that they are happy in their marriages.

And happy wives do not require a 50-50 division of chores. An unequal division of housework is still considered “fair” by these women, as long as they perceive their husbands as a good provider.

“Conventional and academic wisdom now suggests that the ‘best’ marriages are unions of equals,” said Nock. “Our work suggests that the reality is more complicated.

“Wives are surely sensitive to imbalances in routine tasks and efforts, as almost all research shows.

“However, we find that they are more concerned with their husband’s investments in the emotional content of the marriage.”

While it may be surprising that women are not as adamant about equal pay and equal chores as we might have thought - especially given the fact that housework is so often mentioned as a sore spot in even the happiest marriages - this study makes more sense than it does news.

Why wouldn’t a woman be happier with a good provider, considering his salary may make it possible for her to stay home with the kids, work part time or do meaningful work that might not pay well? It is also possible, as the researchers point out, that an unhappy wife may be working harder because she fears for the future of the marriage.

Why wouldn’t a woman who believes she and her husband share a commitment to lifelong marriage report herself to be happier than the woman who believes she and her husband will only be together for as long as love lasts? Certainly the first woman is going to feel more secure, at the very least.

And it is no surprise to me his hefty paycheck is cold comfort if the guy is deaf to the language of the heart.

I am also not surprised to learn that the happiest marriages may be those that are organized along traditional gender lines. He cuts the grass and carves the turkey, she plants the flowers and cooks the turkey. He deposits his paycheck and she fills the larder. He makes pancakes on Saturday morning, and she cooks every other meal.

Is that equal? The researchers use the word “equitable,” meaning “the experience of fairness and justness.” As long as he stays tuned in to her and the kids, she can be happy with a slightly unbalanced scale.

But the importance of his affection and concern in making a marriage happy means that women have not relented on their demand that he be “present in the marriage.” We are still not willing to put up with a lump in front of the TV, the way our mothers did.

In a way, this research may give the lie to the conventional wisdom that sex starts in the kitchen - with him pitching in.

It looks as if marriages are happier if he invites her for a walk after dinner.

Do that, and she won’t mind so much if you never get around to loading the dishwasher.

From the Baltimore Sun

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“Intro To Female Ejaculation - How To Train A Woman To Have Multiple, Full-Body, Ejaculatory (Squirting) Orgasms”

This DVD is very explicit, but make no mistakes - it is NOT pornographic.

This is a CLASSY, HOW-TO video that couples can use to enhance their sexual relationship exponentially! In this Step-by-Step, INSTRUCTIONAL video, you will learn the basic massage and vaginal stimulation techniques that are REQUIRED to achieve Multiple, Whole-Body, Squirting Orgasms.

The orgasms that women experience right now are so limited, so small in comparison to what they could be. Orgasms should be so much more intense, fullfilling and joyful!

In this DVD, you will learn the techniques that promote the oxygenation of the blood and the release of Nitric Oxide and Dopamine (the orgasm chemical).

The energies that come from this, that are shared between people, that are brought into oneself… they are so tremendous. Right now you are inhibiting this process - ALL of you are. You TRY to bring yourself to a point of climax… you struggle to get there… you have so many emotions tied up in this… you wonder if you are doing it right… you try to figure all of this out…

It could be so much more fulfilling if you release some of the old concepts and fear-based emotions that you have around this. It is so fulfilling and so multi-dimensional. It is so sacred and spiritual!

This is the world’s FIRST comprehensive instructional video of this nature. Women will finally get the sexual satisfaction that they rightfully crave and DESERVE to experience!

As a woman, you qualify to learn this if you possess the following:

• A sense of humour!
• A healthy body
• A man or woman who can help you out

That’s all you need!

Make no mistakes about it — This is truly an INSTRUCTIONAL, STEP-BY-STEP “How-To” DVD for lovers. IT IS NOT PORN. We don’t need the ego-trip…

In this DVD you will learn:

• The physical, psychological, and emotional benefits of “squirting”
• The simple massage techniques that are, in most cases, REQUIRED to help women to “squirt”
• Where the typical “pressure points” in a woman’s body tend to be, so that you will know where to massage her
• We open up Ghita’s vagina using a speculum, to show you the insides and to demonstrate “kegels”
• What are the main differences between women that are easy to train and women that require more time
• The proper fingering technique that will trigger most women to “squirt”, otherwise known as the Yang technique
• Several “Squirting” demonstrations
• Troubleshooting techniques
• You will receive free access to our online Squirting Orgasms Discussion Forum to discuss and receive support from Stephane, Ghita, and other advanced students from around the world. You are not alone!

The Total Cost of this 45 minute, Instructional “How-To” DVD for couples is $100 USD (Shipping, Handling, and Tax INCLUDED. Ships to anywhere in the world). The Package that you will receive in the mail will be DISCRETE — No worries

• NTSC Format (You Must be 18+) (NTSC is the standard format and will work anywhere in the world as our DVD is NOT regionally encoded.)
• PAL Format (You Must Be 18+) (While NOT necessary, some people in the UK might prefer this format)
• Visa, MasterCard, American Express, Discover, JCB, Diners

Give women incredible pleasure. Your life will feel like a DREAM.

Click here to see a Sneak Preview!

From: Stephane and Ghita @ Ideagasms

Dear Friends,

The time has finally arrived. The “Intro To Female Ejaculation” DVD is ready!!

• “Show women the Ferrari that resides between their legs.”
• “Turn her drip system into NIAGARA FALLS.”
• “Awaken the sleeping bear in her cave.”
• …She will shake like a dog shitting peach pits.

You know what?

An interesting phenomenon that I’ve noticed, and I haven’t mentioned this before in my newsletters, but once you get them squirting, once they release all the pent up sexual frustration and dissatisfaction they’ve been experiencing for years, they actually AGE REGRESS.

It’s so funny.

Just like babies, they start “cooing”.

They start using “baby talk.”

For example, in this house, Ghita and I do NOT eat “food.”

We eat “FOODIES!”

She doesn’t call me “Stephane”

Hell no… She calls me “STEPHAN-O!”

It’s just something cute that I’ve noticed when women are in love with me. They literally DE-AGE. It’s so awesome!

Anyway, I hope you all understand that “Squirt Training” isn’t just some macho way of having power over women.

This isn’t meant to be an ego-trip (although men are going to feel like a rockstar).

What this does is it HEALS. It’s hard to explain…

Women will start to drop all the pussy-power head games, and their hearts will slowly begin to open beyond anything they’ve ever experienced.

As a result, they will become extremely VULNERABLE. It’s important that you understand this. They are going to need you to be there for them, they are going to be counting on you for emotional SUPPORT.

Because once they start letting go and having intense orgasms like this, it’s usually a pretty emotional experience for them. For some, it can be downright scary. I’ve NEVER seen a woman learn this and not cry afterwards. She will need you to JUST HOLD HER IN YOUR ARMS.

I’m not kidding. This isn’t a one-night-stand acceleration tool. This is for LOVERS.

Trust me, if you just “Squirt ‘em and dump ‘em” you will seriously hurt them. This isn’t for “Players”. It’s not a “trick” to be USED on women.

And forget about the squirting you’ve seen in porn. This is a much higher level. You’ll be training women to have WHOLE BODY orgasms, and it is very intense.

I joke around a lot in my newsletters. As a George Carlin fan, I love making crude jokes and using honest, explicit language, calling women “aloof Barbie’s with too much pussy power” and such, but this is different.

Finally, be patient with the women that you train. You need to take it slow, and you need to do the work that is involved. There is usually quite a bit of preliminary massage, kegels, and the like.

This is a very exciting day for Ghita and I. We are going to be sharing our intimate lives with you, and we’re feeling more than a little vulnerable right now. I mean we’re PROUD and all, but still, we’re putting ourselves on the line. It is very personal. We hope you like it.

THANK YOU ALL!!

Stephane and Ghita

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QUESTIONS?

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REAL TESTIMONIALS

“Hi Stephane&Ghita!

“Last monday we had an excellent night with her. We had bought more towels since he had squirted a bit sunday but this was just FAR OUT! I think she came like 6 times! And at one of those times I actually got some juice shot about 6 inches over my wrist. It wasn´t just having a wet area below her arse anymore, It was really those squirt-projectile ejaculations like Ghita does on the DVD. The dvd ROCKS!”

-Ville Saarenketo, United States

“Last night she squirted for the first time. Have to tell you, man, you are right on with the “snuggle bunny” thing. I have to treat her with care. She has told me, in no uncertain terms, that I “own her”, that I can “take her as I wish”, and so forth. It is amazing if not somewhat overwhelming to me, as of course I have no desire to take advantage of her in any way. The irony is that if I was like that, I doubt we’d be in this position. Anyway, good work!”

-Scot, United States

“The first time I accidentally had a “squirting orgasm ” was about three years ago, and my boyfriend (at the time) thought that I had peed all over him. I was humiliated and apologetic and decided never to do it again.

I then met Stephane, and he taught me that what happened was not only normal, but also WONDERFUL! Female ejaculation, a.k.a. “The Squirting Orgasm” is not pee! Let’s get that out of the way. It feels amazing. When I hear people speaking negatively about it, I get very emotional because I KNOW that this is for real.

He also “anchored” my orgasms and trained me to squirt all over the place. It didn’t happen immediately; my first one was a little one, and then they started to grow. I now have these wonderful full-body orgasms where my whole body convulses. I get hot and elated and squirt all over. I now have multiple orgasms that are not just located in my vagina, but everywhere from the tips of my toes to the top of my head. My body VIBRATES now when we make love.

Stephane has anchored my orgasms to my forehead as well. That is, when he kisses my forehead, I can actually squirt! Girls, I wouldn’t have believed it either… He can also help me squirt without even touching me, using hypnotic suggestion.

Since making these wonderful discoveries, I’ve become very passionate about sharing these techniques with women! I invite you to come learn from us. Come and find out the answer to the question, “How much pleasure can you stand?”

Thank you Stephane, for making me a better woman!”

-Ghita, Montreal, Quebec, Canada

“MAN is it hot! Check out this DVD by Stephane Hemon on how to give women full-body ejaculatory squirting orgasms! Stephane is the real deal and the only other person in the pick-up/seduction community who I respect. This DVD is dynamite. You’ll never have to worry again about sexually pleasing a woman, ever! Highest recommendation.”

- Ross Jeffries, Los Angeles, USA. Creator of Speed Seduction®

“Steph….i squirted!!!! (last night.) its taken a long time, but we dont get much massage time in. neither one of has very much privacy at home, but either way, I DID IT. i could feel it build up to and then i just new before it happened that last night would be the night. it was amazing and afterwards my boyfriend and i were just HAPPY. both of us were giggly and just happy!!”

-M., Los Angeles, USA

“Stephane and Ghita’s Squirt-DVD price was enormous to me as I am a student. But it was totally worth it! Learning about squirting (and further intent to improve the relationship) transformed my girlfriend and me from an above-average happy couple to two satisfied, deeply connected lovers.

Learning this skill (squirting) wasn’t that hard. She squirted at the second session and her response became better with every try. But even just the act of trying to make her squirt got both of us to let go of sexual frustrations and tension.”

-Konstantin Koss, Berlin, Germany

“Hey Stephane, I am working with Diana on the squirting and it has been quite interesting. Yes, we have some more sessions to go but she is contracting more each time. So far, i stay in while she is contracting , hehe, but i will soon do it while she is free to release it. I will give you a full report. I am being very thoughtful and considerate and although there are several candidates, the closeness that comes with it has made me reevaluate who I am ofering this to and who I wish to be closer to.

On a more mechanical note, Diana has gotten to the point where the contractions happen while i am inside her and I just cannot move, and do not wish to! It feels great for both of us and there is a point where we both do not have to move at all. While she contracts, I am supporting her by pressing and staying close and tight to her anterior vaginal areas. It feels like she is swallowing me inside her. Very nice and I know there is still more to feel. will continue reporting. Thank you for your support and friendship and thank you Ghita for your beautiful demonstration.

An other plus is that my confidence and way of relating to women as well as my awareness in attracting better quality females to my life has increased.”

-Victor A Marcial Vega, MD

Board Certified Oncologist

“Well Steph,

I have streamed. pretty hardcore too. The yang technique is awesome!!!! And it has made me flood a whole bunch too. I havent exactly squirted like ghita yet, but what i like best about the yang technique is how it makes me feel: giggly and horny…..and for some reason, I just want to give my man head!! I just get a hankering for it, while he is yanging me to bits. I actually start making hmmm sounds. like if i was eating a good meal.

-Mileen, United States

“Stephane and Ghita,

I just received and watched Intro to Female Ejaculation DVD and I have to applaud the two of you and show my respect for putting yourselves in such a vulnerable position to teach others this magical transformation. The love, respect and happiness I saw between the two of you was inspiring and seeing the happiness on Ghita’s face and smile just increased my desire to want to make that a reality for a special woman I have yet to discover.”

-W., United States

“Hey Stephano…. I just watched the DVD and holy f*ck it is all sooo clear, consise and beautiful. It really feels like it is a 1-1 thing. Like I am sitting there with you guys watching the whole thing in front of me. The whole thing is so clear, and damn PROFESSIONAL. Seriously, the quality of the video is just awesome.

Also, i think that by watching it, some unconcious fucked up beliefs about

sexuality of mine were deeply affected!!! I let go of some issues that I had, and seeing Ghitas face/expression after squirting is just amazing. I honestly can’t remember seeing a girl laughing like that for a long long time…(or ever??)!! Even her toe nails were smiling and giggling after the squiting…lol…..

Also the way she carries her self and behaves throughout the whole thing is

amazing. She is sooooooo confortable and relaxed - such a high exemple of

self love. I’m very excited…..just need a girlfriend now. Your relationship is just soooo inspiring. Thank you both for opening all your doors in the name of spreading the word of love.”

-Victor N., Brazil

“Hey Stephane,

After seeing you at the DYD seminars in L.A., I introduced Squirting to my girlfriend. Your DVD was not yet out, so I purchased a squirting porn DVD. Without your guidance, my lover and I stumbled through figuring this thing out. The first 4 times I got her squirting were very minimal squirts; all over my arm, a little on my chest, and some on the bed. It was very cool to get through that basic wall, but I didn’t know how to get the real fountain running. Porn is a terrible teacher. Kudos to you and Ghita for your insightful and revolutionary video.

I ordered your DVD, and completely changed my methodology. I also changed some of my attitudes toward women, but that is a separate story. I’ve always been good at massage, back, legs, feet, hands, face, scalp, arms, etc… Your massage methods are different, and have added a new dimension to my massage techniques. I also finally understood exactly how squirting works.

That night I started in again with your techniques, including caring, massage, loving from the heart, and trust. She erupted like a fire hose all over my room. She squirted 6 times in one night. This was far more than any plastic toy had ever provided her in volume, quality and quantity. There was a glowing smile across her face that she could not remove. She was so exhausted that she slept until late in the next morning. Two days later she squirted 9 times.

Needless to say, your DVD has fundamentally altered the course both of our lives. To any loving couple, this is a must own DVD. Thank you very much.”

Popularity: 32% [?]

5 Golden rules for finding your life partner by Dov Heller, M.A. A relationships coach lays out his 5 golden rules for evaluating the prospects of long-term marital success. When it comes to making the decision about choosing a life partner, no one wants to make a mistake. Yet, with a divorce rate of close to 50 percent, it appears that many are making serious mistakes in their approach to finding Mr./Ms.Right!

f you ask most couples who are engaged why they’re getting married, they’ll say: “We’re in love.” I believe this is the #1 mistake people make when they date. Choosing a life partner should never be based on love. Though this may sound not politically correct, there’s a profound truth here. Love is not the basis for getting married. Rather, love is the result of a good marriage. When the other ingredients are right, then the love will come. Let me say it again: You can’t build a lifetime relationship on love alone. You need a lot more. Here are five questions you must ask yourself if you’re serious about finding and keeping a life partner.

Download the complete 5 Golden Rules for Finding a Lifetime Partner in PDF

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