Recently I went to go see the movie “The 40 Year Old Virgin,” and it is without a doubt one of the funniest movies I’ve ever seen. The film focuses on a lovable guy who has pretty much given up on women, choosing to play with his toys and video games instead.When his friends find out that he’s still a virgin at the age of 40, they start giving him advice on how to get a woman.

Even though the movie is a comedy, and some of the characters and situations are rather outlandish, there’s still some great messages at the heart of the movie.

The first of which is — IT’S NEVER TOO LATE.

No matter what has happened to you in the past, or what is going on in your life currently, it’s not too late for you to start meeting and dating women.

Seriously, some guys take themselves out of the game, or just simply give up when the going gets a bit tough.

Either because of the pain of rejection or fear of women, they choose to take the less painful road and keep to themselves, letting one opportunity after another with women pass them by.

But living a life devoid of love or intimacy is NOT a good thing!

People aren’t meant to be hermits, we’re social creatures and we have to interact with others.

Unless you’re a monk devoted to a life of celibacy, you’re going to want to have a good woman in your life.

That brings us to our second lesson — LEAVE YOUR COMFORT ZONE!

In “The 40 Year Old Virgin,” opportunities with women did not start happening with the main character until he stopped doing what was comfortable for him and left his “comfort zone.”

Usually, he’d spend his nights watching TV, either alone or with his elderly neighbors. But when he started going out to places like bars, speed dating events, bookstores, and other places he didn’t normally go to, he began to learn some things about women.

The whole idea of moving out of your comfort zone isn’t to make you feel UNCOMFORTABLE, it’s about helping you to LEARN. And it’s because you’re learning that you feel uncomfortable, due to the fact that you’re starting to do something new that’s never been part of your reality before.

Too often, we get used to doing certain things, living a certain way, and acting a certain way.

It becomes routine.

We become used to it, even if it’s not healthy!

And when we try to venture outside of it, we scurry back to our comfort zone because we don’t like doing things that are new and scary!

But how else are you going to learn what works for you if you don’t venture into the unknown?

How else are you going to learn about women if you don’t make the effort to interact with them?

You must be willing to stop doing what’s comfortable and take some risk.

You may fail a few times, but when you do succeed, it’ll be that much more satisfying. And before you know it, what used to be scary and uncomfortable is now easy!

The third lesson from “The 40 Year Old Virgin” is — MEET WOMEN.

Some of the funniest scenes in this new movie is when the main character goes out with his friends to actually meet women. But the message here is something I’ve been preaching on my website and in my newsletter for YEARS.

**If you don’t know how to meet women, you’ll never get one of them!**

Too often, guys will let one opportunity with women after another pass them by because they don’t know what to say or do to meet them.

Understand that women are THERE for you to meet!

They WANT you to meet them — in fact, they EXPECT you to meet them!

And if you don’t, then they think you’re just not interested in them.

Seriously, all the guys out there who know how to get lots of dates are the guys who walk up to women and start talking to them, display their personality and confidence, and then get the date.

If you don’t act like one of those guys, if you don’t approach women, then it’s the woman’s belief that you just aren’t that into them.

It can be a hard thing meeting women, and it can lead to embarrassing moments (as you’ll see in “The 40 Year Old Virgin” movie), but ultimately THIS is what will get you success!

But you can minimize the fear, embarrassment, and rejection you suffer if you know what to do and prepare yourself BEFORE you go out to meet tons of women.

In my book The Art Of Approaching Women, I lay it all out for you in clear, easy-to-understand language that will be your own personal guidebook in how to do everything you need to to find a great woman you can have wonderful experiences with.

I can teach you how to read a woman’s body language to see if she she’s interested in you.

I can teach you how to flirt with a woman to get her interested in you.

I can also teach you how to train yourself to meet any woman you want.

It’s all possible. If you were to download my ebook and start reading it right now, by the time the weekend rolls around you’d be ready to go out and have some fun with lots of different girls.

You can get your copy of The Art Of Approaching Women now by clicking below:

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Before you know it, you’ll be one of the guys giving advice on how to meet women!

Wishing you success,

Joseph Matthews

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The Shocking TRUE Story Of How A Bald, Skinny, 5 Foot 6 NERD Became The World’s Greatest Pick-Up Artist

If you’re a guy who has ever been curious about what it takes to seduce women in the real world (as opposed to the watered-down ideas Hollywood would have you believe actually work), or a woman who wondered how real-life “players” really operate, then there is a new book hitting the shelves this week that you absolutely MUST read.

Two years ago, Neil Strauss — Rolling Stone writer and New York Times best-selling biographer of Jenna Jameson and Mötley Crüe — took what he calls “a journey into one of the oddest and most exciting underground communities that, in more than a dozen years of journalism, I have ever come across.”

What followed was a bizarre descent into a world-wide underground subculture where brotherhoods of men, brought together by the internet, congregate and study how to meet, attract, and ultimately bed women. This is an underworld shaded from the public view, filled with colorful characters that have to be seen to be believed.

There’s the manic-depressive professional illusionist who moonlights as a personal seduction coach, taking men to clubs at rates of over $1000 a night. There’s the forty-year old failed comedian who hypnotizes women into sleeping with him. There’s the former Real Estate broker who built a financial empire teaching men how to get dates. There’s the two college drop-outs inspired by the movie Fight Club who travel the world creating cults designed to seduce women. And then there’s Neil Strauss himself.

As a single male with little personal success with women, Strauss was intrigued by the teachings and colorful personalities in this seduction community. And as a reporter, he wanted to meet these men and find out what made them tick. But as he got sucked deeper and deeper into this subculture and taken under the wings of all its leaders as part of their elite inner-circle, Strauss ceased to be a mere observer and actually became one of its superstars.

Before long, Strauss found himself at the center of this secret society. Looked up to by desperate men wanting to learn his secrets, seen as an equal among its best teachers, and widely regarded as one of the biggest innovators in the techniques the community had been created to pioneer, Strauss was no longer documenting the story of this community — he had suddenly become the story.

In his new book, “THE GAME: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pick-up Artists,” Strauss for the first time takes center stage in one of his books as he finds himself at the epicenter of a real-life drama rife with massive egos, shocking betrayals, and cut-throat business rivalries. He soon discovers that what he has entered into has ceased to be about becoming more successful with women, and suddenly become a struggle for his very soul. And probably the most incredible aspect of THE GAME is that…

Every single word of it is TRUE.

At turns outrageous, hilarious, and upsetting, but always compelling, THE GAME is the first book to venture into this uncharted (and widely unknown) terrain of sexual politics. Men will study it to learn its secret techniques. Women will flock to it to learn how guys think. But no matter what, everyone will enjoy reading this amazing story.

Here’s what others are saying about THE GAME:

“This book on the Secret Society of Pickup Artists is one of the great surprises you will get from reading a work of non-fiction; no matter how high your expectations are, they will be surpassed by his insight, wit, and clever word-craft.

The greatest gift you will get from your time penetrating the game will be to spend several hours in the company of one of America’s truly great working writers. You will put this book down after turning the last page and you will feel within yourself that (because of this book) you have become a better person. The man will make you understand that your only limitations are in your own mind.” – Clint Arthur

“This book is about how an average guy turns into a better man. It’s what every guy wants. After all, what guy hasn’t wished that he could have more CHOICE with women- because that’s what we’re talking about here. That’s what it’s really about.” –Blake Richards

“His book is fascinating and very true; I strongly recommend it to those guys who mistakenly think they cannot have any woman they want. Neil is a true example of it. While reading it, pay attention to his personality; that’s the strongest card he plays and the only one that really matters after all.” –Ivan Alvarado

“I can’t put it down-already on Chapter 5–Wow! The guys are reading it and the women better read it too.” –Sandy

“The book is hilarious, but what really makes it powerful is that it is a tale of self-improvement. Once you get past the lingo, lines, and gimmicks, it’s really about an average guy learning to be more confident with himself and women.” –S. Marc

“Just finished this book, couldn’t put it down. This is an amazing story of a few men, who decided to take their lives and desires in their own hands. Strauss holds nothing back and provides a candid exploration into the psyche of a few guys, who went from being regular average guys to being with some of the most attractive women around…” — Neeraj Bansal

“This is, bar-none, one of the most complete and entertaining guides on the subject of seduction I have ever seen. In fact, I’d rate it up there along side Robert Greene’s classic, The Art Of Seduction. This is a must own book.” –Joseph Matthews

• If you live in South Africa you can purchase The Game by Neil Strauss from Kalahari.net

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‘The Art of Seduction’ by Robert Greene reviewed by Faraaz Mahomed

Seduction is an art form not easily mastered. For some, it pays to be sexy and charming. For others, being sincere works wonders. For most, though, there is no secret formula, no magic, one-size-fits-all pickup line. Instead, we’re told to ‘just be yourself’ and ‘trust that they’ll like you for you’. And Santa Claus really does exist.

For skeptics like myself there is a new and rather compelling answer to this age-old dilemma. With chapters like ‘Choose the Right Victim’ and ‘Send Mixed Signals’, Robert Greene’s ‘The Art of Seduction’ seems like the first book of its kind written in my language. Seduction, according to Greene, doesn’t consist of fanciful ideas like honesty and trust but, instead, strategy. It provides an intriguing look into the human mind, and it isn’t pretty.

Greene speaks of relationships as though they are battles, to be won and lost, he analyses the past conquests of some of the most seductive people in history, interspersing these with details of great generals like Napoleon (Correct me if I’m wrong but, seductive he was not) and his approach to relationships. The book, quite refreshingly, not only discusses manipulation, but actually advocates it! As if one needs more reason to go out and grab this psychological masterpiece.

The book lets us in on the author’s theory of the nine types of lovers, leaving the reader to decipher their own place and category. He points out the strengths of each, encouraging the audience to capitalise on their own mystery or charisma. One can’t help asking though, what of the weaknesses of each? For someone who possesses neither mystery nor charisma (or anything else for that matter), it need only appear that you do. Finally, self-help without any self-righteousness. Shameless.

Greene, whose other books include the ‘48 Laws of Power’, wastes no time in removing the romance from seduction and relationships. His business-like tone may not appeal to everyone and there seems to be very little room for failure within his ‘scheme’. His 24 steps come with pearls of wisdom from the likes of Sigmund Freud and William Shakespeare, the guy who lusted after his mother and the guy who wrote Romeo and Juliet. But maybe it is this very simplistic view of human nature that we need. In the era of Oprah and Sex and the City, maybe all we really need to be told is that the age-old traditions of lying and manipulating really weren’t that bad after all.

I may be wrong but I don’t remember a single use of the word ‘love’ in ‘The Art of Seduction’. The author doesn’t seem to equate one with the other. If seduction is the goal rather than the tool, what happens when it’s over? Perhaps Greene has too many women on his hands to really address this question. I never thought I’d say this, but he may just be too cynical. Still, ‘The Art of Seduction’ is likely to be one of the most provocative and honest books you’ll ever encounter in the genre. I’m off to find me a victim….

• Buy Art of Seduction by Robert Greene from Kalahari.net if you live in South Africa
• Buy Art of Seduction by Robert Greene from Amazon.com if you live elsewhere

Popularity: 9% [?]