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On Tuesday I went to the traffic department to pick-up my new drivers license. As fellow South Africans will know - this is a nightmare. The whole system is so messed up because of computer glitches and government bureaucracies and bungling…’nuff said.

Anyway while waiting in the queue I see this woman reading a Danielle Steel book. So as I walked in I immediately made a loud comment about the two guys on either side of her being losers for not talking to her. In fact I pointed to her and said “How rude! Do you guys realise she’s telling you how boring you are and her book is more interesting then whatever you have to say?”

She hit back that they had been stuck in traffic department for two days. They were there the previous day and the systems went down so they came back. Now the great Chinese sage, Lao Tzu, once said those who justify do not convince. And here she was - I hardly know her - and she is defending herself. If she did not care she would continue to read. First IOI - indicator of interest - and she asked me a question - next IOI. My name was called and picked up my drivers license card. I returned to her, asked for her cellphone, called myself and asked her name as a I left - remarking that somebody up there likes me.

So there was some warm-up conversation. Always teasing and never letting on. From the moment I sat down, asked for her phone, called my own number and returned her phone asking for her name > less than 2 mins! This has been one of my favourite ways of getting a woman’s phone number.

The next article will be reposted from David DeAngelo and his technique on email addresses and phone numbers. I’ve tried it and it causes to much of a delay so go directly for the phone number.

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I’ve adapted this for South Africa…

Leykis 101 is a series of tenets developed and promulgated by US radio personality Tom Leykis designed to teach male listeners how to achieve the most sex within the least amount of time, effort and money. Followers are called “Leykis 101 Students“, and Leykis is “The Professor.” Though only men are true Leykis “students,” women are encouraged to listen to learn how men behave and think. Leykis’ 101 class is currently held on The Tom Leykis Show on Thursdays.

The content of Leykis’ show, while popular with listeners, elicits strong media criticism. His show has been described as “five hours of women-hating venom” hosted by “a peddler of misogyny and misinformation, a radio shock jock who promotes gross simplifications as facts and confuses shrill tones with dialogue.” Leykis, however, acknowledges he courts controversy to generate interest, claiming “this is a business, and my job is to get the largest number of listeners I can get.”

The Date: Leykis 101 students are cautioned against spending more than R200 on a date. Leykis believes that expensive dinners, pricy gifts, elaborate flowers and the like do not increase the chances of sex. Why R200? Because when you go to the ATM, it is the most common fast cash option.

If a woman does not “put out” (i.e., consent to sex) by the third date, a Leykis 101 student should “dump that bitch” (”DTB” for short) because she has no intention of ever doing so, according to Leykis.
Use a condom every time during sex: Men should be responsible for birth control and always wear a condom regardless of what the woman claims. Students never rely on the woman’s declaration that she’s using a contraceptive, says Leykis.

He instructs students to flush their used condoms down the toilet, but because this is sometimes inconvenient or impossible, students are encouraged to carry hot sauce to pour inside their used condoms. According to Professor Tom, several women have attempted to impregnate themselves with the sperm inside spent condoms to extort child support payments. Leykis advises men who use the ‘hot sauce method’ to “get out as soon as they hear a scream”, a probable indicator that the woman has tried to self-inseminate.
Whom not to date: Single Mothers: Leykis insists that some men have been ordered by the courts to pay child support to their former wives, even though they were not the biological father of her children. This, he asserts, financially ruins the men for many years making them unable to start a new life with another woman or enjoy the money they earn.

Women who use a cell phone during a date: Leykis claims such women do not consider the date important and are probably arranging a later date with another man.

Women in Groups: Leykis claims that they make sure no sex happens. This is especially true if a date unexpectedly shows up with an uninvited girlfriend, as they’re scamming for free food or need an excuse to leave, without you.

Coworkers: Leykis claims dating coworkers risks being sued for sexual harassment and leads to awkward working relationships. Tom does make exception if you don’t care about your job or wouldn’t mind quitting or getting fired as a result of dating a coworker.

Facts of life

Leykis claims that the more money a man makes, the more attractive he is to females.

Leykis claims that “young and hot girls” are a natural substitute for Viagra and Cialis.

Leykis also claims that until a student’s career is established, he should not have girlfriends. He often quotes empirical evidence as justification for not getting married.
Cell phones and dating

If a female answers a cell-phone call, or responds to text messages, in the middle of dinner, Leykis advises that the male should immediately get up and leave. He justifies this as follows:

* It is possible that the caller is another man who she is going to have sex with when she finishes her date.
* If the caller is one of her children, the man is already violating Leykis’ ‘no-single-mothers’ rule.
* If the call is work related, and is deemed more important than the man now, it will always be more important.

Leykis believes if a woman deems a 101 student unimportant enough that she feels comfortable answering her cell phone during the date, she is not sufficiently interested in having sex with the man. Leaving immediately, he advises, would save the man a good deal of money. In contrast, he believes the man should always carry a cell phone on dates. Leykis’ logic follows that a man ignoring a woman for a work related call will actually make him look more “important and in control”, thereby drastically reducing the “waiting period” women observe before having sex with men they’re dating. Leykis claims that a woman will try to test a man, trying to focus his attention on her and, he believes, there’s a good chance that sex might be part of the attention-getting hunt.
Don’t answer the phone on weekends

Leykis admonishes his students against answering their telephones on weekends, giving the impression that they are busy and important people. Answering a woman’s calls (and generally being accessible to her) is not the way to do this, he advises. As justification, Leykis usually quotes what he believes is a basic rule of humanity: “we want what we can’t have.”

Checkout the full and complete Leykis 101 Tenents here.

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Here’s a list of the statistics by social scientist quoted on an article on the well respected business magazine, Forbes:

• They will be unhappy if they make more than you
• Women’s work hours increase divorce rate (increase in men’s have no effect)
• She’s more likely to have an affair with co-worker
• Those with graduate degrees 1.75 times more likely to cheat

Forbes.com published a story Aug. 22 by editor Michael Noer on two-career relationships that provoked a heated response from both outside and inside our building. Elizabeth Corcoran, a member of our Silicon Valley bureau and principal author of the magazine’s current cover story on robots, sent in this rebuttal. Here’s a link for reader discussion.

They removed this article and put it back up with the Counterpoint. Rest assured I’ve had experience with career women. They are too busy even just to date, and I’ve come to abhor hated people who are tooooooo freakin busy to get together and cut them out of my social circle sooner rather then later. Do not waste your time with this type of women.

The question I want you to ask yourself: DO YOU WANT TO BE RIGHT (SUCCESSFUL) OR DO YOU WANNA BE HAPPY?

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Two’s company, three’s a crowd. Truer words have never been spoken. Do you have a chronically single friend that you, grudgingly, bring along to your dates? Are you that friend? If so, you will find a solution for this at Couples. An eye-catching online dating website for South Africans – www.couples.co.za – is the destination. If you have any misconceptions about online dating services, such as “only desperate PC geeks date online”, then leave them at the door, because this website offers you thousands of funky men and women to chat up. The website’s auto matching system uses your age, religion and cultural factors with which to create your profile. Using this profile, potential matches are recommended to you.

This website now has over 20,000 users and is one of the cheapest websites around. A six month subscription will cost you R100 while a 12 month subscription will only cost R150. This is exceptionally great value for money if you think about how much you typically spend on a weekend out on the town.

One thing I do not like about Couples is that I cannot filter on some criteria. For example on most other webistes I can filter out women with children or I can select with check boxes multiple races. Not with Couples. The search and matchmaking system is very basic in this regard.

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by Camilla Lloyd

Apparently, I am too late. Everyone has already discovered the coveted secret as to why men don’t understand what women want. “We’re just wired differently,” some friends confided in me, before glibly repeating a list of horrifying stereotypes.

Men are logical, ambitious, independent and unemotional. Women are emotional, irrational, illogical, blah blah blah…

The verdict: men and women are hopelessly incompatible.

Yet, people get married every day, some stay married, and, I have to hope, some even stay happily married.

The verdict: almost hopelessly incompatible. According to the stereotypes, men and women are complete opposites. Yet, studies in gender psychology show that where there are distinct differences in the thought processes of men and women, these differences are in fact only marginal. Men are not naturally better at Maths, nor are women necessarily better able to express their emotions.

The findings of the research consistently report discrepancies between gender roles in different countries, and an increase in gender differences as children reach puberty. The problem isn’t merely that men do not understand what women want, the problem is that they are taught by society not to understand.

The stereotypes I have already listed confirm that there are certain expectations as to how men and women behave. People learn these behaviours, and tend to exaggerate them during social interactions. So not only are men and women different, but we exaggerate our differences. It seems neither gender wants to be understood.

The verdict: hopelessly, frustratingly incompatible.

In the last century or two, relations between men and women have only gotten more confusing. Feminism encourages women to be more ambitious and independent, and to revel in their differences from men. As women become more masculine (and, one would think, more compatible) they become less attractive to men. Being feminine, and thus emotional and illogical, is ideal.

So men don’t understand what women want? Women don’t understand what men want!

The verdict: neither men nor women understand what the other gender wants, so perfectly compatible.

But, what do women want? The short answer is women themselves don’t really know. The long answer is everything and nothing. Women are raised to define themselves by their relationships. So if everyone is happy, women are happy; but if a woman is not happy, no-one is happy. At the risk of perpetuating some damaging stereotypes, women are walking contradictions. Hence, the reputation of irrationality. Women want stability with excitement, security without confinement.

More importantly, women want everything on their own terms. a). Women are never wrong. b). Women are never at fault. c). Men are always to blame.

Now, women know that sometimes they are wrong, that sometimes they are at fault, and that sometimes they are (partly) to blame.

If men want to try and understand women, don’t. Just humour us, and pretend you understand us. We’ll appreciate the gesture. The verdict improves significantly if you do.

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by Mehmet Aksoy from www.girldatingtips.com 

Chances are women won’t arbitrarily flirt with you on the street. They won’t offer their bodies to you. They won’t approach you and ask for your number. You have to initiate meeting women.

Once you meet a woman, she will decide if she wants to further the relationship. If you exchange numbers, you still must initiate. Call her. Don’t wait for her to call you. You have to get out there and actively pursue women. Meet and date as many women as you can. Even if you decide not to date the women you meet, you will gain valuable experience just by taking the initiative to approach them.

Taking ACTION is the key to success with women. The ability to approach women comes with confidence and also with lots of practice. The better you feel about yourself, the more women will respond to you. Your behaviour can be a direct suggestion of your level of confidence. You may need to build up your self-esteem in order to feel confident communicating with women. A man with high self-esteem will confidently walk right up to the most beautiful woman in the room and start talking to her. However, a man who is not sure of himself will be unsuccessful in achieving his goal of meeting and seducing the woman of his dreams.

Which guy do you want to be? If you don’t feel good about yourself or you know of areas you could improve, take a trip to the nearest library or bookstore. Pick up a couple of books on how to improve your self-image. You should recognize and try to improve your weaknesses thereby lowering the possibility of rejection.

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A great question I was asked a little while ago was “Why would an attractive woman living in a big city ever use the internet to meet a guy?”

On first glance, it DOES seem kind of bizarre. We all know that women are “hit on” in regular life, be it on their way to work, when they are out with friends, at a club, etc.

And an attractive woman would have even more of this, so it would seem like the last thing a sane woman would do is seriously put up a profile on a dating site.

Well, the answer is that there is far more than meets the eye to this situation:

#1: THE NET SAVES TIME AND ALLOWS FOR GREATER SELECTIVITY

First of all, although women DO meet lots of guys in their regular life, they STILL don’t often meet a guy they actually DESIRE. That means a guy who’s got that magical combination of things that makes her feel CHEMISTRY.
You see, women don’t feel desperate just to have sex. They know they can have it anytime, so they tend to be a little more selective. The fact that tons of guys try to hit on her doesn’t mean she WANTS those guys.
The internet gives women a chance to check out TONS of guys before they “waste time” on them. Women can read about a guy, his profile, his pic, she can chat over the net and therefore SCREEN the guy before meeting him.
(Unfortunately, most guys give off a TOTALLY WRONG IMPRESSION of themselves, i.e. UNSEXY, from their profile. I’ll discuss more on this later in this article.)

#2: THE NET ALLOWS FOR GREATER DISCRETION

There is another benefit of the internet for women. You see, women still have this fear of being labelled a “slut” and the social disapproval that comes with that. But through the internet, she doesn’t have to worry about explaining her desires, she can just find a guy who has already made it clear either in his chat to her or in his profile, or by the sheer nature of a particular personals site, that he is looking for the same thing she is.
These days, there is a site for everyone, no matter WHAT you are looking for - whether it’s a relationship, something casual, something within your ethnicity, or something very bizarre and far-out - there is a site for it.
All she has to do is just click and go for it. No embarrasing discussion for her, since she’s already been accepted by the very nature of the site.
And NO ONE else has to know a thing.
On the net, you can state what you want, and find someone who wants the same thing, and presto - you got it. Very direct, and very discreet.
This is a HUGE factor that appeals to women.

#3: INTERNET PERSONALS SITES ARE NO LONGER STIGMATIZED

Another factor that is appealing to women about the internet is the fact that there is no longer a stigma to using it, even for women. Many of these sites have spent MILLIONS of dollars on shaping a woman-friendly image and marketing to women to help them feel that meeting someone through the net is trendy, hip and cool.

Article by Michael W. From: www.girldatingtips.com

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by Nomfundo Mbaba

I walked into Cubana, the venue for the speed dating event in Cape Town, and I immediately began to feel the butterflies in my stomach. It’s one thing going on a blind date, but going on blind dates with 15 men is a whole other ball game

That’s how speed dating works. A certain number of men and the same number of women have quick one on one date of five minutes or less. They chat, socialise and hope for a love connection.

Meeting the Potentials
On this night I was ready for anything. I approached my seating area and was relieved to meet two other women who would be dating the same men I would date. Caroline and Samantha are siblings. As a working single mom, Caroline doesn’t have time to meet guys, so trying out speed dating is the next best thing. Samantha is single too, but she came with her sister for moral support. Meeting a man would just be an added bonus.

On this date the three of us sat in our little area and the men would come to us; rotating until they had dated every women in the room.
It wasn’t until five dates later that my butterflies disappeared and were replaced with a mental block of: What do I say next? I have already asked the same questions over and over. And I have responded to the same questions over and over: What do you do? Where do you live? Is it your first time here? Blah, blah, blah.

“Was five minutes enough time to truly connect with somebody?” I wondered to myself.

Speeding ahead
By the time I was with guy number 13, I couldn’t remember who guy number two was and what he did for a living. My only saving grace was a card the organisers had given me at the beginning of the evening where I could fill out the person’s speed dating number (e.g. guy number five). I could write brief notes to remind myself of who interested me and write a big HELL NO next to the number of the person who was not to my liking.

Possible match?
I think it was guy number seven who interested me and made a lasting impression. He told me my boots were nice. He was the only one who noticed my new shoes or even made a comment. And because I am a shoe-aholic (one who is addicted to shoes), I was very pleased. We had made a connection. Not a love connection, just a shoe connection.
The following day when I filled out my online card at www.speeddater.co.za (doesn’t exist anymore so try www.smartdate.co.za instead) with my favourites, guy number seven was one of them. Even though I had made no love connection with anybody there, I was curious and eager to see who had chosen me. There were three “matches”. I had strategically cast my date net wide, so three matches out of 12 was not so bad.

Unconventional Success Story
This Speed dating thing turned out to be a not-so-bad move. I met a lot of interesting people and began to enjoy it as the evening went on.
I’ve told my single friends about it and I hope to go with them next time (if I’m still single).
Even if I did not meet a soul mate, I do have a success story. Guy number seven has become a good friend. He is still single, so if there are any single women out there let me know so I can hook you up with a very sweet man.

For more info Speed Dating websites in South Africa go here.

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