Dating Lessons from Borat

You may or may not have seen this clip before. Borat has certainly entered the mainstream with the hit movie from 2006. Borat in his usual casual style introduces the topic and explains in a bewildered manner how American women will not get married unless you date them first. Apparently where comes from, in Kazakhstan, you just go to the woman’s father and pay them. Sounds almost like lobola to me. The questions by the matchmaker with Borat’s responses is hilarious. One benefit from this kind of situation is that it helps you become clear about what you want, what you have to offer. The question of race is not a sensitive issue to Borat: he does not want a Jewish woman. One good piece of advice given at this stage is not to be sexually explicit in your dating profile. You want to be sensual wherever you can but never direct.

Next in dating school Borat learns that most American men bring to many gifts. This is a big no-no according the dating coach. He practices his funny chair joke on her with some uncomfortable giggles. A tip here when telling jokes never laugh before the woman you are talking to has laughed. No matter how lame your jokes – hold your breath – and the people you speak to will eventually giggle even to relieve to the tension. More about cocky comedy later. I think the most hilarious part is that Borat does the opposite of what the dating coach tells him to do. There is some value here because doing the opposite of what your mother taught you or what society expects to you to do, can sometimes have surprisingly good responses from woman. Everyone enjoys a surprise whether they admit it or not.

 

Author: RJ Thomas

RJ Thomas is an International Relationship Builder. He was born in South Africa, and moved to China in 2013.

  • I haven’t seen “Borat” yet but will be hiring the DVD soon. But I have noticed a correlation between cocky comedy in real life and in the movie (from the short promos I have seen on TV). The “I know you have an opinion, but its rather silly and mine’s the only one that matters anyway” attitude is a key element to pulling off cocky comedy. Sacha Baron Cohen takes it to the extreme but YOU know he dosen’t really mean it. Therein lies the comedy. And it works well in a dating situation too. If you start hearing nervous “Did-he-just-SAY-that” kind of laughter, then you’re in a good place. Great blog Ramon, I’m learning tons!