Do you need look like Ryk Neethling to be successful with women?

The short answer is “no” because looks are less important for women then for men. I’m not saying it’s not important - it is important just less than what most men believe. I saw Ryk on 3Talk today and had this thought I felt like sharing this with you…

Attractive people have always has advantage over less attractive people. I’ve come across many stories of attractive people being hired especially in sales positions. One that really hits home for me being multiracial person in South Africa is this one.

One expert explained the way attraction develops for men and women differ in the following ways.

For women it happens like this:

1. attraction first happens at an emotional level
2. next it happens at an intellectual level
3. next it happens physically

For men it happens like this:

1. attraction happens first physically
2. next it happens intellectually
3. next it happens emotionally

So in this respect you may realise how much more common it is to see really attractive women with unattractive men. If you think about it what are some of the qualities or characteristics women find attractive: sense of humour, confidence, mystery, etc. Ask any man what he finds attractive about a woman. You’ll get a list as follows: I like her ass, boobs, legs, lips, smile, eyes, etc.

Men are biologically and evolutionary designed to be more visual. Back when we were running around on the African Savannah in groups of 50 to 150, we needed to be very accurate in hunting and protecting our tribes, by having good eyesight. Women on the other hand looked after the children and developed an amazing ability to read emotions from the children and from other women.

When you start learning how to convey your personality in a manner that women find compelling, you realise that physical appearance or model looks is less important for women. Now how do you develop your personality? Learn how to be less needy. Stop complimenting women. Tell interesting stories and one thing that I certainly encourage men to learn from the likes of Ryk Neethling is to have a magnificent obsession. Have a purpose or a path that you follow. You will become immensely more attractive to women.

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