Ramon Thomas talks to Tracey Cox, world renown sex, relationship and body language guru
Tracey Cox, the world renowned sex, relationship and body language guru, did a world wind tour of South Africa from 30 November to 1 December 2004. She was interviewed on the popular talk show, 3Talk with Noeleen, and hosted an intimate evening, and book signing at Rhapsody‘s in Fourways, Johannesburg.
I met Tracey before the event and had asked her what she thought about other relationships books out there. She admitted that books of this nature must be fun to read, to the point, and provide illustrations where applicable. Her new book, Superdate, the follow-up to the hugely successful Supersex, and Superflirt.
Best known as a body language expert, Cox selected two people to demonstrate the basics of body language. After they sat down on a table she quickly began to point out typical mistakes made which are in fact bad posture and shows a lack of confidence. After all confidence is the name of game for successful dating or mating. According to Cox, South African men tend to become arrogant when nervous. Pointing out how to stand, how to sit, and what to do with our legs, she quickly demonstrated the basics of good positive, provocative, body language:
- 1. Always roll back the shoulders.
- 2. Keep your back straight.
- 3. A women may cross her legs but it’s a not advisable for men
- 4. Do not fold hands or clasp hands but keep them separate or on top of each other.
- 5. When entering a room full of people, first pause at the door, then walk through the centre. Even if you are shy, and end of leaning against the wall, this shows confidence, and first impressions do last.
The women at Rhapsody’s by far outnumbered the men. One wonders how serious men take this business of flirting and body language. The event organisers, Fastdate, and Penguin Books, did a superb job in allowing the audience to interact with Cox on such a personal level.
It’s a pity I couldn’t ask her questions about my own body language. She said I was too “nice”, so I’d be no good when for the body language demonstrations. One thing to learn from all this is that you shouldn’t focus too much on the other person and trying to read their body language. Instead focus on your own body language and what signals you want to send.
Tracey Cox is one of the world’s foremost writers on sex and relationships and is also a TV presenter. As well as starring in the UK series of Would Like to Meet, Tracey is also starring in the US version of the show, renamed Date Patrol. Her brand-new show, Under One Roof, airs later this year on ITV, when Tracey turns her hand to solving all the problems living together can cause
