When and how to Kiss a Woman

On Sunday I was out for the first time in a very long time at the weekly stand-up comedy at Cool Runnings in Melville, hosted by John Vlismas and the indomitable team from Whacked Management. This is an awesome place to take a woman after you’ve first met her on a date. There is nothing better than laughing to get your emotions spiking naturally and your brain releasing the right mixture of chemicals and endorphins.

The more I listen to him, the more I realise the genius of Richard Bandler, when he teaches that you make good decisions when you feel good and that your own internal state determines how people respond to you. So stand-up comedy helps to make a woman feel good when she’s with you, those good feelings become linked to you. And the beauty of going to events like this is that you do not have to funny yourself. Simply relax, enjoy and have a good laugh with her and everyone else.

Anyway onto kissing. I made small mistake this time around as I waited almost toward the end of the evening to kiss her. We were inside during the comedy show and afterwards went around the corner to Cat’s Pajamas for coffee. Throughout the evening there was excellent eye contact, a sort of dance between my eyes and her eyes. And every now and then I touched her, played with her hair, her scarf, etc. This is a fundamental sign that a woman is comfortable with you i.e. when she allows you to play with her hair.

As we left Cat’s Pajamas the best place to kiss her could have been just before we left the building, downstairs, where it was private and discreet. Secondly I could have kissed her before we left Cool Runnings, after the immediate high from the stand-up comedy. Instead I walked her to her car, and as I said, for me it was damn cold, and that is not the best internal state to be in when trying to escalate physically with a woman. I pulled her close and kissed her gently. Not the kind of french kissing I wrote about here but a few short pecs on the lips. I let her go and pulled her back again and she responded. The timing just wasn’t the best and the place wasn’t the best.

As a man you should avoid the above mistake wherever you can. Ensure that you physically escalate throughout the evening. Never leave the kiss to come as a surprise right and the end of the evening. And if you ever dropping a woman off, unless you are already dating, forget about kissing her before she gets out of the car. She may offer a hug and you’ll know that you screwed up your chances earlier in the evening. The principle is really to kiss her when you are feeling the best inside, because you will be naturally confident as you lean over or pull her into you for that awesome smooch on-top of her smile.

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