As most people know South Africa started to emerged out of decades of Apartheid brainwashing that the white race is superior to others in early 1990s. And so when I was at university between 1993-1995 I started noticing more and more interracial couples hanging out around town. It was almost like it was the in thing where white girls were seen with coloured or black guys - not so much the other way around. Since 2000 its certainly all more common place to see many variations of mixed couples in South Africa and indeed worldwide.
According to a recent HSRC survey, quoted in the Mail & Guardian feature: Love and Marriage in 2006 this is how different race groups supported interracial marriages
- 43% Blacks
- 38% Coloureds
- 49% Indians
- 61% Whites
Now I’ve noticed a particular trend among successful non-white South African women who end up in relationships with white men. And this is something beyond race. Here’s a brief list for your information:
- Jo-ann Strauss, former Miss South Africa and Top Billing presenter, a Coloured woman from Cape Town has a “German boyfriend, orthopaedic surgeon-model Michael Held.“
- Vanessa Marawa, Survivor SA winner, is dating a Jewish-American, Zach Leverenz.
- Pam Andrews, who I’ve met a few times is dating white talk show host, sometimes comedian Paul Viv.
Now why do you think these women date white guys instead of coloured or black guys? My theory is simply that the could not find black/coloured men who could measure up to their status, their intelligence and financially. If you take Jo-Ann Strauss and Vanessa Marawa, both models, they are exceptionally tall and this again probably makes it very difficult to find guys within their own racial or cultural backgrounds who are taller. There are many anecdotal evidence that shows that women prefer taller men. And I’m sure if I tried harder I could find the actual evidence to support this argument.
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I find the fact that it still raises eyebrows interesting. What does it matter who you’re dating. You just get along with someone or you don’t. Really simple.
Does it not also say something for the white guy who’s dating this “non-white” woman?? Why always lambast the “non-white” for dating outside the racial boundaries set by society? Oh and please don’t use that word in our modern, contemporary society.
I am not lambasting these women because I think they are choosing the best possible partners that ensures the best possible chance of their genes survival. And so I’m pointing out something that’s genetic in nature and not racial in nature. These women have looked around and found these men serve their needs better. And maybe this leaves a lot to the imagination of the average non-white man out there as to why he may never attract women of this quality.
I think you theory is far too simplistic. You’ve provided us with just three example on non-white woman dating white men. Needless to say these three are in the minority.
To say that these women aren’t able to find find men in their own race groups who are as successful, intelligent and financially secure is ridiculous.
Equally nonsensical is the fact that your post seems to portray the myth that only white-men can provide the above mentioned vaunted qualities!!!!!
Maybe I will do some more research to find out what’s going on but I can tell you this is happening in America as well. Just read this recent story More black women consider ‘dating out’.
Love doesn’s see colour!
Love knows no colour or dimension!…The heart wants what the heart wants!
I personally don’t think that these very successful and beautiful coloured and black women, actively seek out white partners. In fact I would stick my nexk out to say that the vast majority of highly-successful black, coloured and even Indian women date men from within their own respective race groups!
They probably just like white guys. I like black, coloured or indian girls simply because they are attractive to me (I am white). Addtionally, they must be courageous and probably aren’t married to culture, sort of metro general culture. Maybe they like to try new things and pushing the envelope, which means they could be bored with their own background (nothing wrong with that!). Keep it up girls!
To each their own.
I find this blog outrageous, and even apalling and void. The subject of the matter is just stupid. Why debate about all this? Don’t you have something better to quible about?
This is my advise to all of you. Males!!! Better-up yourselves= make good money and you will definitely widen your chances of getting any lady on this planet and enjoy. Likewise, self-made millionaire,so proud of myself. I have had all, blonde rednecks from the horn of Texas, the affluent Newyorker ladies, Asian petites, and even celebrities, have all been part of me.
The only challenge is not about your race about about your affluency and this places you in a better place. Some ladies come from rich families and they don’t care about your dollars, but for yourwell-being and confidence, u need $$$$$
I’m a Zimbabwean(black)-Shona currently based in North America, my businesses operational in Texas, Carlifornia, Washington DC,New York-USA, and Vancouver, Toronto, Montreal-Canada.
I have never had challenges in choosing whoever i want to date,
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