Tonight a woman phoned me whom I met recently. She started telling me how she’s on her way home (I was on my way home as well) and that she’s just come from her weekly class (she’s studying toward a Charted Accountant), went for coffee and now on her way home. I joked about her not inviting me to join her for coffee.

Well she got a little defence and tried to put the blame on me for not phoning her. Well I was having dinner with another woman (who also paid for it) and so I didn’t have the empty feeling I think she had on her way home. Because it is very likely she had coffee with her friends from the class or alone. Well I politely told her I’m not going to continue talking to her after she told me she was actually tired and dying to get into bed, etc. This is the lack of respect people in general have for themselves and also others. Even for people they are interested in. The emptiness in your life is likely to make you want to hear the voice or get an email from someone you are attracted to.

Well you should try to break this bad habit. Do not respond to people who are complaining about their current situation and calling you up for conversation. This is what I did…I told her, “call me back when you’re not tired.” And I remained silent…she tried to continue the conversation, so I repeated myself, “please call me back when you are not tired.” This is how you set boundaries. How you do not accept 2nd class behaviour from people. This is how you control the frame and how you can cultivate an attitude of non-neediness. Most people suffer in loneliness, even in crowds. I know because I experienced it many times in the past. And the worst was of course when I was out in the public and still felt emptiness inside.

The way to overcome this is to experience it and like water allow it to pour over your body and it will eventually fall away. You have to let go, completely. In Taoism this is called “the fasting of the heart.”

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I picked up the Daily Sun yesterday when I saw the first headline that Women Prefer Shopping to Sex, and then when I bought it I saw an even bigger headline with a photo of a Man Who Was Rapped. Well firstly to the claim about women preffering sex. This is some of the biggest bullshit society wants us to believe. Yes older women may prefer sex because not that many men are approaching them. Younger women can have their pick because they are constantly being propositioned by men. And when I finally read My Secret Garden:Women’s Sexual Fantasies by Nancy Friday I realised once and for all how strong the desire is for sex in women as well. Society condons a woman who enjoys sex. She is made to feel like a slut and she is raised from a very young age to resist, to block feelings, to keep herself pure (for who?).

A long time ago I was brainwashed like most of you and wanted to marry a virgin. Now last year a female friend of mine introduced me to her friend so I could give her some advice on men. We ended up hitting it off and went on a date the next week. And because I know what I’m doing we ended up at my place. Suffice it to say this women, about 27 years old, is the worst kisser I’ve ever encountered. And what’s the point of a woman with no experience? What practical value does “virginity” have in a modern society? We have contraceptives, we have condoms, we even have operations to prevent pregnancy.

Anyway I want to give one more example and yes it is subjective. I know a 21 year old woman who masturbates at least three a day. She is bisexual and maybe that contributes to her sexual desires being so pronounced, maybe all woman are like that, she just felt comfortable enough to share it with me.

Go here to read the news report on South African women preferring shopping to sex.

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This is a post the Ideagasms Forum

There are more girls being born compared to boys. Michael Moore refers to it as, “The End of Men” in his book “Stupid White Men“. According to Michael this is happening in the USA.

When Micheal was young (I’m guessing something like 40 years ago), the ratio was about 50-50. 50-50 meaning there were about the same amount of males and females. Then the ratio went 49-51, with males in the minority. Soon the ratio will be 48-52. The book was published in 2001-2002 so we might be at 48-52. I’m not sure if this is happening all over the world, or just in the states. I would bet that it’s not an isolated thing and is global. Michael thinks more women are being born because men are dangerous, destructive, crazy, etc (which is really just a deeply entrenched ego). He goes on to say that Mother Earth’s defense to the tendencies of man is to kill them off, so that the planet can survive.

Anyway, I’ll get to the point of this post, this is only a theory. Maybe Mother Nature, God, or some other Divine Force is doing something different than weeding out males. If you think about Hermetic Circles for a second, the ones that Ideagasms is about, you will notice that there is 1 male living with multiple females. can you see where I’m going with this now? The ratio in Hermetic Circles is that females are easily the majority. Maybe this Divine Force has another grand plan for males. Good news is that we don’t need to wait. Eckhart Tolle in his book “The New Earth,” tells us how flowers were once an isolated phenomenon. Then one day after a critical threshold was reached, flowers were everywhere. Stephane also told us the story of the monkeys on two islands. Teach the first island how to do something, go to the second island, and they are already doing the task you taught the monkeys on the first island because the critical threshold was reached.

I don’t mind being one of the monkeys on the first island right now. Ok maybe I’m not on the first island yet, however Stephane is, and possibly others who inhabit this forum. So if you are ready, God Speed on your path. I will work vigorously to get on the first island. Personally I know that I need more experience with one women before I live with two or even three women. I know this will be made easier with my Chakra meds in one hand, Squirt DVD in the other and the GTP coming soon. I’ll be ready in no time.

So don’t wait for evolution to take place. It could take 500 years or more. Act now and join “Squirt Master” Stepahane and others on the first island now, it’s probably lonely for them. Actually with all those girls I’m sure their content.

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Friendship between Women:

A woman didn’t come home one night. The next day she told her husband that she had slept over at a friend’s house. The man called his wife’s 10 best friends. None of them knew about it.

Friendship between Men:

A man didn’t come home one night. The next day he told his wife that he had slept over at a friend’s house. The woman called her husband’s 10 best friends. Eight of them confirmed that he had slept over, and two claimed that he was still there!

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1. I wish you were a door so I could slam you all day.

2. Nice legs…what time do they open?

3. Do you work for UPS? I thought I saw you checking out my package.

4. You’ve got 206 bones in your body, want one more?

5. Can I buy you a drink or do you just want the money?

6. I’m a bird watcher and I’m looking for a Big Breasted Bed Thrasher. Have you seen one?

7. Wanna play army? I’ll lay down and you can blow the hell outta me.

8. I wish you were a Pony Carousel outside Walmart, so I could ride you All day long for a quarter.

9. Oh, I’m sorry, I thought that was a Braille nametag.

10. Is that a ladder in your stockings or the stairway to heaven?

11. You might not be the best looking girl here, but beauty is only a light switch away.

12. You must be the limp doctor because I’ve got a stiffy.

13. If it’s true that we are what we eat, then I could be you by morning.

14. (Look down at your crotch) Well, it’s not just going to suck itself.

15. You. Me. Whipped cream. Handcuffs. Any questions?

16. Screw me if I’m wrong, but is your name Helga Titsbottom?

17. Those clothes would look great in a crumpled heap on my floor.

18. My name is (name)…remember that, you’ll be screaming it later.

19. Do you believe in love at first sight or should I walk by again?

20. Hi, I’m Mr. Right. Someone said you were looking for me.

21. Wanna come over for some pizza and sex? No? Why? Don’t you like pizza?

22. Do you sleep on your stomach? Can I???

23. Do you wash your pants in Windex? Because I can see myself in them.

24. I lost my puppy. Can you help me find him? I think he went into this cheap motel room.

25. (Lick finger and wipe on her shirt) Let’s get you out of these wet clothes.

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I came across the term sexual currency last year when I first listened to the David DeAngelo, author of Double Your Dating’s Mastery Program. I won’t explain his definition but rather my own experience and interpretation…

So on the past Saturday night, just after midnight, I arrived at a very one of the hottest clubs in Joburg, Moloko. As I walked inside I saw three women to to my left and I recognised a two of them. The first girl, let me call her L1, was someone I’ve had some intimate encounters with. And I’d met, at Moloko, the the 2nd woman, let me call her B.

Anyway I was quickly introduce to the third one. Let me call her L2. The vibe in the club was really good and we just connected. Pretty soon I was dancing and enjoying the music. Now as a man being surround by three hot women in a club is what’s called social proof. There was a lot of suggestive dancing and flirting going back and forth with all three women.

Now I’m going to skip some of the detail and just say that she was attracted to me. Based on what she said, and more on what she did and how I behave these days I can see attraction in social settings. Moloko closes its doors around 3h30am and they politely encourage all the patrons to leave. And I invited L2 over to my place for a drink and I assumed L1 would come with as well. This is a polite way of saying to her, come over to my place and we’ll get to know each other some more. But maybe I was mistaken because when we got to B’s car, L2 said no she wants to go to her place.

So I left but within minutes I got a call from L1 asking me to come back. So I did and when I arrived L2 got into my car, keeping the door open. And she asked me, “so what’s gonna happen if I go with you…” And I repeated what I said before. Basically we’ll go to my place, have some wine and get to know each other better. She kept repeating herself to the point where she was asking, “…well what about buying me breakfast, and what about some money for taxi fare back to Morningside.” This started sound like she wanted something more specific like cash. Well to my big surprise she blurted out, “…can’t you just give me R400.” And I retorted, “I don’t pay for sex, I never paid L1 for sex.” So she got out of my car and I left them.

I’m leaving out a lot of detail because I just want to highlight something here. In South Africa, as in most other countries in the world, prostitution is illegal. But it is happening. I saw it with my own eyes in United Arab Emirates, a Muslim country where there is such strict control of what the public sees or hears about, what’s allowed and not allowed. And when something is taboo it does not mean people will stop doing it because it may become more alluring. In fact in Maslow’s hierarchy of needs sex is part of the most first level, Biological and Physiological needs along with air, food, drink, shelter, warmth and sleep. So how do I see sexual currency.

Well as one of my best friends (a brilliant accountant) once described it. When you go to a club, you pay the entrance fee, you buy drinks for yourself, and you buy some women drinks. So you may or may not go home with the women. But there was a real cost. Now the flip side is just go find a women who will accept the money in exchange for the sexual favour and get straight to the point. Don’t waste time, energy, just accept that you desire it and go for it.

Well in conclusion my approach would be to deny those weak urges. Instead be a man, be a real man and make sure women in your life are with you because they enjoy being with you. They enjoy the experience of being with you and the sexual attraction is both ways. When you think in economics terms the supply has to meet the demand. So for you guys reading this do not fall into the trap of sexual currency.

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I religiously read the Dating Tip ‘O the Morning from Even Katz, author of I Can’t Believe I’m Buying This Book: A Common Sense Guide to Internet Dating. His new book, Why You’re Still Single is out now and on my reading list. Anyway I love his monthly tips because they are exceptionally witty, sharp and to the point. And somehow he manages to give some good objective advice in a world of dating advice ruled by women.

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Dr Paul is a psychiatrist and surgeon who has developed his own unified theory of psychology. I first came across him when he was interviewed by David DeAngelo, in his Interviews with Dating Gurus program, last year and they ended up doing a seminar series together called “Deep Inner Game.” I’ve communicated with Dr Paul here and there and he sent me his MindOS ebook late last year. This one of several books he has written about human behaviour and is a complete system that combines success/motivation with the best psychology into a unified theory. He has some real practical ways for thinking about and creating confidence and understanding the emotional triggers that life brings to you.

And for me personally my divorced parents taught me nothing and I grew up with my mother. Dr Paul’s ebook taught me how “father” and “mother” by specific actions and behaviour.

Anyway here’s a excellent short interview with him I found on his MySpace profile

Also checkout his website www.doctorpaul.net

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The wife of that very ugly rock star, Mick Jagger, is looking for a new man. She’s a former supermodel and actress, currently 50 years old. She’s looking for a new man and devised the following 5-point plan to help her in her cause:

The article reads, “In a determined bid to remedy the situation, Miss Hall has now drawn up a strict five-star plan to get her love life back on track. Her next boyfriend must satisfy five criteria. The new man in Miss Hall’s life must be:

1. Aged between 40 and 50.
2. Independently wealthy.
3. Entertaining.
4. Preferably American.
5. And, most importantly, he must treat her ‘like a princess’.

Now I will deconstruct this for you, my women readers of this dating tips blog to point out the fallacy in her thinking. She is firstly trying to hard, she is being to aggresive and this points to something being wrong. Now in contrast you read about another former fashion model and actress, Andie MacDowell, who happens to share my birthday 21 April, and news reports still describe her looking really good and she talks about how her most important thing is her family and kids. She has been married twice and her approach is the opposite of Hall’s.

Point 1: Wants A Younger Man

Now a any woman looking for a man younger then her is unusual. I think this consideration for her at her age is a very realistic one because there is a very slim chance a man in his 50-60s will be interested in a 50 year old woman. At that age is it so much easier for older men, who will be financial secure, to find and date younger women in their 40s, 30s and even 20s. This older mature man is supremly appealing to women in their 30s who are feedup with younger guys. So I think this one is good move. Go Jerry!

Point 2: Wealthy Man

She’s looking for an independently wealth man. This again is admirable because she would like to be spoiled liker a princess in point number 5. A woman like Jerry is used to living the high life. But I tell you know if she meats a guy with the right attitude and confidence this will not be a problem. Look at Demi Moore and her younger boyfriend. There is no correlation between a man’s wealth and the kind of woman he can get. And although their is a mental idea from a woman that this is a more ideal man, a woman like Jerry lives a very boring life because everything comes to her so easily. So a man of adventure will be must more appealing then a man of financial wealth.

Point 3: Entertaining

She’s looking for a man who can entertain her. Now this is really bullshit because what does this woman expect? A clown? I think not. What she is really in need of is a man of adventure. A man who’s unpredictable and who is able to lead. A man who is confident and who has his life together and is going somewhere. And who can include Jerry in his life. You should never, as a man or a woman, expect your boyfriend or girlfriend, or spouse to be responsible for entertaining you. You must have a life, and you must entertain yourself.

Point 4: Preferably American

This is not surprising as there is so many more wealth American then there are anywhere else in the world. America has 371 of the world’s 793 billionaires. This is about 47% of the world’s richest people. I think Jerry’s just being pedantic because there are some very wealthy European men.

Point 5: Treat her like a Princess

Now what woman does not want to be treated like a princess? With Disney movie brainwashing all children from the 1937s onwards when they released Snow White. Well Jerry get a reality check, Mick Jagger was probably abusive and now you’re looking for a guy will not be abusive. And she’s not a little girl anymore living in a daydream fantasy. She’s a woman and instead she should be expecting a man who will treat her like a woman, a mature, confident, successful women.

And from this list she’s not that confident and insecure, trying to portray the image of success. What do you think? Hit me back with your feedback in my Comments.