It’s been months since I’ve been to my Tai Chi class and I’m starting to feel really itchy about it. So even though I’ve been doing my Tai Chi Chuan at home its not the same as doing in a group. One of the things I’ve done to console myself is to go back to re-read the Chinese classic Tao Te Ching.

On another note as I’m approaching my 10th Toastmasters speech, to complete my Compitant Communicator, the first manual. I’ve decided to start with a quote from Bruce Lee, which he repeated in the famous Lost Interview with Pierre Burton. However, watching the entire interview I cam across a reference to Tai Chi Chuan. Pierre Burton asks him to explain all the fancy moves he sees people doing on the roof tops of buildings. Bruce goes into an explanation of Tai Chi Chuan and the philosophy behind it. And this quote from Bruce just struck me as applicable to relationships as well, “I mean to them the idea is ‘running water never grows stale.’ so you’ve got to just ‘keep on flowing.’”

When you realise a relationship has run its course its very likely because you’ve stopped flowing. When things become to predictable, when you become bored or tired all the time time. The passion you may have had and the physical attraction dies down. Now of course you can resurrect it with some effort. But you’re missing the point. The whole idea behind Taoism is effortlessness. Many people seem to think of an end-goal to relationships being marriage. I believe this is a fundamentally flawed presupposition. And therefore you’re setting yourself up for failure. Again most self-help books on relationships will persuade that relationships or marriage is hard work. It shouldn’t be hard work it should just flow.

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This is a question from Yahoo! Answers that I answered and was voted Best Answer by the person who asked the question…

As the week keeps going, I’m feeling more and more depressed. I feel like pretty soon something is going to happen to me because of my bad decisions. What can I do to make me feel better about myself? And to not feel so depressed? I’ve been feeling depressed for about 2 weeks. Could this be something serious? Should I go to a doctor?Please, just give me some advice on how I can put off stress, and just get a little self-confidence.

Here’s my answer:

There is three suggestions I can make having experienced depression twice in my life before.

Firstly do all the things for yourself you wish other people would do. So for example if you wish someone would buy you a gift go and buy one for yourself. If you wish someone would take you out to a nice dinner or show. Do it for yourself.

Secondly help those less fortunate. This is maybe the most important because you will soon start to see there’s always someone else in a worse position. And when you do things to help others you will experience gratitude which open’s your heart. Gratitude is the key to changing the way you feel because you start to feel like you are making a difference in other people’s lives.

Lastly watch some comedy shows, stand-up comedy or funny movies. Go back to the classics like Charlie Chaplin or get the earlier Jim Carrey movies like Ace Ventura or The Mask, those really physical comedies with little words. Depression is a myth that’s in your head. You minimise yourself compared to other people. When you laugh you feel more like yourself meaning that you are not putting yourself down or patting yourself on the back. You just in equilibrium.

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