I recently watched this comedy, School for Scoundrels, and was only mildly entertained by it. The more important lesson is that a shy, nerdy, insecure guy can become confident, social and improve your success with women. So many of the guys who ask me about my coaching programme are infatuated with ONE girl. They miss the point that it is about improving your overall social success with women.

This is one of those few movies like Hitch which can give insecure, lonely or frustrated guys a glimpse of what’s possible. The basic plot of the movie is that Roger, a nerd, played by John Herder from Napoleon Dynamite fame, takes a class with a self-help guru, Dr P, played by Billy Bob Thornton. Dr P is a real ass hole and treats all his students with disdain. He has a bad-ass enforcer in the form of Lesher, played by the huge Michael Clark Duncan.

What I want to highlight is how stupid this movie ends. Roger wins back his girlfriend from Mr P, who turns out to be the biggest liar and a con man. When you watch a movie like this, you have to think about how realistic it is for a character as pathetic as Roger to build enough confidence to do what he does. What I mean is to pull it off. These kinds of things never happen in the real world. It takes a long time to build up enough muster to challenge an authority figure like Dr P. There are no shortcuts, and you can throw luck out the window. Fake it till you make it just won’t cut it with women in the long term. If you want to supercharge your social success with women in South Africa, join the South African Seduction Lair and meet guys with more experience. Stop reading books or listening to audio programs from the Internet. Meet guys who can show you what’s possible.