A great question I was asked a little while ago was “Why would an attractive woman living in a big city ever use the internet to meet a guy?”
On first glance, it DOES seem kind of bizarre. We all know that women are “hit on” in regular life, be it on their way to work, when they are out with friends, at a club, etc.
And an attractive woman would have even more of this, so it would seem like the last thing a sane woman would do is seriously put up a profile on a dating site.
Well, the answer is that there is far more than meets the eye to this situation:
#1: THE NET SAVES TIME AND ALLOWS FOR GREATER SELECTIVITY
First of all, although women DO meet lots of guys in their regular life, they STILL don’t often meet a guy they actually DESIRE. That means a guy who’s got that magical combination of things that makes her feel CHEMISTRY.
You see, women don’t feel desperate just to have sex. They know they can have it anytime, so they tend to be a little more selective. The fact that tons of guys try to hit on her doesn’t mean she WANTS those guys.
The internet gives women a chance to check out TONS of guys before they “waste time” on them. Women can read about a guy, his profile, his pic, she can chat over the net and therefore SCREEN the guy before meeting him.
(Unfortunately, most guys give off a TOTALLY WRONG IMPRESSION of themselves, i.e. UNSEXY, from their profile. I’ll discuss more on this later in this article.)
#2: THE NET ALLOWS FOR GREATER DISCRETION
There is another benefit of the internet for women. You see, women still have this fear of being labelled a “slut” and the social disapproval that comes with that. But through the internet, she doesn’t have to worry about explaining her desires, she can just find a guy who has already made it clear either in his chat to her or in his profile, or by the sheer nature of a particular personals site, that he is looking for the same thing she is.
These days, there is a site for everyone, no matter WHAT you are looking for - whether it’s a relationship, something casual, something within your ethnicity, or something very bizarre and far-out - there is a site for it.
All she has to do is just click and go for it. No embarrasing discussion for her, since she’s already been accepted by the very nature of the site.
And NO ONE else has to know a thing.
On the net, you can state what you want, and find someone who wants the same thing, and presto - you got it. Very direct, and very discreet.
This is a HUGE factor that appeals to women.
#3: INTERNET PERSONALS SITES ARE NO LONGER STIGMATIZED
Another factor that is appealing to women about the internet is the fact that there is no longer a stigma to using it, even for women. Many of these sites have spent MILLIONS of dollars on shaping a woman-friendly image and marketing to women to help them feel that meeting someone through the net is trendy, hip and cool.
Article by Michael W. From: www.girldatingtips.com
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but hey maybe I should spend the next Diwali in Lenasia, south of Johannesburg.
