This is a great little practical tip from Brent Smith, an American dating coach on what frame of mine you should have when you’re out socialising and meeting new people. It can be overwhelming if you are brand new to taking charge of your dating life but give it a try anyway. Imagine how easy it is when you’re the owner of a club or bar, to meet people. You’re always checking how people are doing, what they need and you also do a lot of introductions. I have found introducing people even in business networking can be a vital link to establishing credibility and making people feel at easy. Remember most people are anxious in social settings so you are not alone in journey to expand and enhance your social life.
This must be one of the most amazing stories someone has lived to tell. The experience described by Dr Jill Bolte Taylor is doing the rounds on the Web because of how powerfully she delivered her story at the TED 2008 Conference. This was a facinating talk because its really a east meets west or in her words left meets right brain talk. This is the kind of story I would hope that makes you think about your own life and your perceptions or interaction with the world. How much are you feeling or how much are you experiencing? In most cases a fraction of what’s possible. The more you life in your head, and not in your, the more you cut yourself off from the universal intelligence as Napoleon Hill called it, or the Grand Organised Designer (or Design) as Dr John Demartini calls it.
Anyway here’s one of the best from TED 2008 so you can decide for yourself:
Boys don’t cry? Well maybe it’s good for boys to cry every now and then. This video brought tears to my eyes because of how sincere and deep the message is by Severn Suzuki. In 1992, at the age of 12, Suzuki raised money with members of ECO, the Environmental Childrens Organization (a group she founded) to attend the Earth Summit in Rio De Janeiro. How long has it been that I sat down in nature or hugged a tree? How long has it been since I rolled around on grass or walked bare foot in a stream? How long will it take for us to realise that we and the environment are one - and if we continue to poison it, we only poison ourselves?
The more we love the environment the more we love ourselves and vice versa. Do not wait for someone else to do something about it. You go and do something about it in your yard or your neighbourhood.
It’s been months since I’ve been to my Tai Chi class and I’m starting to feel really itchy about it. So even though I’ve been doing my Tai Chi Chuan at home its not the same as doing in a group. One of the things I’ve done to console myself is to go back to re-read the Chinese classic Tao Te Ching.
On another note as I’m approaching my 10th Toastmasters speech, to complete my Compitant Communicator, the first manual. I’ve decided to start with a quote from Bruce Lee, which he repeated in the famous Lost Interview with Pierre Burton. However, watching the entire interview I cam across a reference to Tai Chi Chuan. Pierre Burton asks him to explain all the fancy moves he sees people doing on the roof tops of buildings. Bruce goes into an explanation of Tai Chi Chuan and the philosophy behind it. And this quote from Bruce just struck me as applicable to relationships as well, “I mean to them the idea is ‘running water never grows stale.’ so you’ve got to just ‘keep on flowing.’”
When you realise a relationship has run its course its very likely because you’ve stopped flowing. When things become to predictable, when you become bored or tired all the time time. The passion you may have had and the physical attraction dies down. Now of course you can resurrect it with some effort. But you’re missing the point. The whole idea behind Taoism is effortlessness. Many people seem to think of an end-goal to relationships being marriage. I believe this is a fundamentally flawed presupposition. And therefore you’re setting yourself up for failure. Again most self-help books on relationships will persuade that relationships or marriage is hard work. It shouldn’t be hard work it should just flow.
David Deida is one of the most enlightened teachers alive today. He is truly a master of his craft. And his book, The Way of the Superior Man, has changed my life forever.
Deida focuses on his theories about the different ways that men and women grow emotionally and sexually.In this short video clip David talks about the difference between sexual therapy, sexual yoga and sexual spirituality practise.
Ever heard of Mitch Hedberg? My friend Chris van Wyk recently brought him to my attention. What an awesome comedic talent. He’s jokes are so arb you cannot help yourself laughing your ass off. In fact he comes across as someone who’s permanently high because his delivery is so laid back. It’s refreshing to have clean humour where no vulgarity is used while still being hilarious. From watching so much comedy it just seems that most stand-up comedians or movies rely on toiler humour or sex talk to get a laugh. Mitch Hedberg was something else. Sadly he passed away in 2005 just before his first HBO special.
In our hyper linked world, we can know anything, any time. And this mass enlightenment, says Buddhist scholar Bob Thurman, is our first step toward becoming Buddha. When we can know everything, we can see how everything is interconnected — and we can begin to feel compassion for every living being.
This is one of many excellent talks on the TED website. As you may know I attended the TEDGlobal conference in Tanzania recently. So I have a close affinity to all things TED. This is one of my favourites of the more recent talks posted. And I highly recommend the Bob Thurman podcast as well.
Who is Mr Deity? Your friendly neighborhood omnipotent, omnipresent God or as Dr John Demartini says, Grand Organised Designer. This hilarious send-up was created by Brian Keith Dalton.
This is one of those shows popping up on Youtube along with the likes of Chad Vader, that has the potential for mainstream success. In fact Brian’s goal is to turn this into a weekly sitcom and is currently negotiating with some tv networks. I really find it amazing how much wit and intelligence these 5 minute webisodes contain. Without explaining more about Mr Deity I include a clip of the very first one to get you started…
