Sean Stephenson once said the greatest lie is “seeing is believing” and he explain it a bit. How I understood it is that we hold back because we don’t see that its possible to approach a certain woman, or to talk to a certain guy you have your eye on. Well you have to believe…
MXIT Lifestyle, a Stellenbosch-based company, launched MXIT, an instant messaging platform, about 12 months ago. It’s been in development for a few years and must be one of the greatest success stories of its kind ever to come from South Africa because it is experiencing incredible growth. Today I interviewed the CEO, Herman Heunis. And…
A friend of mine emailed me this poem by Oriah Mountain Dreamer and asked me what it means if a woman sends (him, a guy) this kind of email. And I’m going to go into more details about what I told him to shed some light on this behaviour. It means nothing much when a…
I’ve been going to salsa class at Dance Junxion in Rosebank, Johannesburg, for the last several weeks. They offer a range of dance styles from ballroom, hip-hop, Latin and Spanish dancing. This is one of the best ways to meet new people who are often single. And it’s a whole lot of fun. My posture,…
Dr Robert Cialdini wrote a book called Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion. One of the weapons of influence and core principles in this book is “Social Proof”. Wikipedia defines it as “a psychological phenomenon which occurs in ambiguous social situations when people are unable to determine the appropriate mode of behaviour. Making the assumption that…